This month's been super busy - largely my fault because I have jam packed our calendar. I feel that is how me and the kids work best, is when we are busy and up and out of the house. It feels good knowing we have something planned and to look forward to. There's nothing I love more than going on adventures with my kiddos. But with that I've learned that I also need downtime with my kids. I found that I was starting to feel way to burnt out at the end of the day and that we were all craving some quiet time at home. Lily was starting to get fussy and telling me that she didn't want to go out. So I had to listen to her and my body. Even though I get ansy sitting around the house and the itch to leave, at the end of the day some downtime is good for all of us.
The biggest thing for me this month is realizing how much I need some time with just Lily. I've been focusing on trying to have kid free time to indulge in some self-care but what I learned is that I also need time with my girl. One of the hardest parts of being a mama of 2 is figuring out how to divide your time equally. I do my best to spend time with Lily while Mason naps and plan special days out that I know she will enjoy but nothing compares to time spent just me and her. I also find it difficult because people are more inclined to offer to watch Lily rather than Mason because it is "easier" or they think that is what I need. However, little do they realize it is actually the opposite - I would love for people to offer to watch Mason for an hour or 2 so I could get some time with just Lily. This month, I was lucky enough to have a few times just her and I and I noticed such a difference in our interaction and relationship. We went to a Hamilton Honey Badger's game together and it was so amazing to see Lily's love for basketball and experience that together. Then other times its something as simple as a walk to the mailbox together or running to the store just her and I. Whatever it is, the time spent just the 2 of us together is always so special for the both of us. We like to call it "Girl time" and I will be working hard to make sure that we have a lot more of that every month.
The last thing I've really reflected on is mine and Chris' marriage. We celebrated our 2nd wedding anniversary this month and it got me thinking a lot about how our relationship has changed over the years. Getting pregnant prior to us getting married never really allowed us to have that "honey moon phase" and for us to do a lot of things we probably would have done if it was just the two of us. Not I really feel like we missed out because we have our whole lives to experience things together when the time is right. But, it just made me realize how important it is that we put the effort into our marriage and each other. I am sure many of you can relate to the difficulties of keeping the spark alive in your marriage when you have kids. But it is so important to devote the time and energy to it. Now that the weather is nicer we enjoy time together outside once the kiddos are asleep, and we've tried to go on date nights more frequently. While I may not want to do these things in the moment, once I push myself to go out I always feel so much better and really enjoy the time with just my husband. I am excited to share some more of our date night ideas with you guys in the upcoming months and hopefully encourage you all to treat relationship to something special!
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